In other words, you're giving yourself an excuse simply by saying you "should" do something, rather than you "will" do something. So to keep yourself focused, stay away from non-committal words, try not getting yourself worried about your healthy decisions, and try and frame them in a way that you think you'll enjoy. For you. World globe An icon of the world globe, indicating different international options. Get the Insider App. Click here to learn more. A leading-edge research firm focused on digital transformation.
Good Subscriber Account active since Shortcuts. Account icon An icon in the shape of a person's head and shoulders. After all, the start of a new year seems like the perfect time to make changes, lose weight, quit vaping , try something new, or get a fresh start on life. But, if you're like most people, you make resolutions without giving much thought to how you are going to achieve them. Instead, you jot down a few things you would like to accomplish or change in your life and call it a day.
Then, by the time mid-January or the first part of February rolls around, you have given up on your resolutions and may even start to feel just a little like a failure. If you find this scenario is true for you, don't beat yourself up too much over the broken resolutions. If you're like most people you may feel guilty about breaking your resolutions.
But psychologists indicate that breaking New Year's resolutions should not be as guilt-inducing as some people allow it to become. Instead, look at your broken resolutions as an opportunity to learn a little more about yourself rather than beating yourself up for not sticking to your diet or hitting the gym every day. For instance, if you resolved to go on a keto diet, but find yourself sneaking carbs, ask yourself why you think that is happening. Are carbs your comfort food and life is really stressful right now?
Could it be that a different weight loss plan might be better for you? Rather than berating yourself for not sticking to your plan, use the broken resolution as an opportunity to learn more about your habits and your preferences.
Doing so will help you refine your goals and come up with a plan that is more attainable. Likewise, some people come up with too many resolutions, which in the end can be overwhelming to try to attain. Instead of focusing on one thing they want to accomplish in the new year, they write down an entire laundry list of changes—sometimes as many as 10 to 20 resolutions.
In reality, expecting this much change in a single year is unrealistic. Plus, these types of resolutions put added pressure on you , which can increase your anxiety and stress levels, especially if you have perfectionist tendencies. So, if creating long lists of goals is your approach to resolution-making, it should come as no surprise when you break your resolutions.
But instead of getting down on yourself, be thankful that the broken resolutions will relieve some of the pressure you felt to perform or meet unattainable goals. Most people assume that breaking New Year's resolutions is a bad thing. They feel guilty for not achieving their goals for yet another year and wonder why they go through this process year after year.
Instead of assuming that breaking resolutions is a bad thing, look at it as an opportunity to grow and learn. Here are some things you can learn from breaking your New Year's resolutions. A further danger is that an addiction or chronic problem can be transferred to the pursuit of self-help.
The addiction to resolutions and affirmations replaces the original addiction or chronic problem. If you fail at any of these small steps — which you inevitably will — brush it off, and realize that failure and recovery is part of any process. Or do as Puritan American theologian Jonathan Edwards did and compile a list of 70 resolutions, to be reviewed every week.
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